For some of us: saying no is a struggle. Sometimes we’re too shy to refuse an offer or feel too guilty if saying “no” means hurting another person’s feelings. We are often taught to be considerate of others, even if that means stepping out of our comfort zones. But saying no isn’t wrong if you feel that it’s the right thing to do.
Don’t let someone else’s feelings override yours. Saying no doesn’t make you inconsiderate, selfish, greedy, or rude. It means that you are putting yourself first in all situations and are making sure you’re comfortable with what you are doing. No one should push you into anything you don’t want to do, nor should they make you feel guilty for pushing aside your beliefs to appease them. Know who you are and what your morals and boundaries are, and if someone asks you to do something or say something that is against your code then say no.
You don’t have to go to that party tonight because you don’t drink, you don’t have to date someone only because they’re asking you, and you don’t have to hang out with the same people if you feel like they have no consideration for you. You are entitled to your own opinion and you deserve to feel loved. If someone is making you feel ashamed or wrong for not agreeing to what they are saying, they are not worthy of your time. Why be stuck in a position that’s holding you back from achieving great things? Breathe, keep your spirits high, believe in yourself and your values–and say “no!”