Should You End a Friendship?


Throughout our entire lives we grow and we change: it’s a natural part of life. But not every person in our life grows and changes with us. There are some difficult points in life when you may contemplate the idea of letting a friend go. It can be hard to let go of people, but it’s important to remember that not everyone in our lives needs to be permanent. We always have the choice to decide who we want to share our lives with.

So how do you know if you should let a friend go? Use these tips to help you out:

Are they negative?

Negative people can be extremely damaging to our happiness and self-esteem. People who are negative always see the bad in everything, which can be draining. But the more harmful thing is a negative person who doesn’t add anything good into your life: someone who is always tearing you down or criticizing you. These types of people have no place in your life. You need to be surrounded by happiness and positivity to ensure a full, beautiful life. If some people no longer provide that, it may be time to cut the cords.

Is the relationship worth it?

Friendship is hard. You have to make sure you maintain your friendships and that you can be a constant source of confidence, encouragement, and even common sense to the people you choose to associate with. In turn, those people should be your friends in the same way. But are they? If you find yourself constantly putting more into a friendship without anything in return you should start to question whether the friendship is worth it. Assess your friendship: are they not being good to you because they are going through a difficult time? Are they there for you most of the time? Or have they never really supportive at all? Once you evaluate your friendship, you may realize that you will gain more in your life from ending the friendship rather than staying in it.

Can you successfully end the relationship with no regrets?  

If you decide a separation is necessary (and no, you’re not a completely horrible human being if you decide that; it’s your life and you’re in charge of your own happiness), finding the courage to actually take that step can be challenging. But in general you should feel good about the decision and have no regrets about the choice you are about to make. If they longer contribute to your life positively, stick to your guns and move forward without regrets. You can acknowledge that you had some good times in the past, and that the relationship was great while it lasted, but now it’s time for you both to move on.

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Nani graduated in May from New Mexico State University with a bachelor's degree in Journalism and English. When she isn’t writing, you can find her listening to nostalgic 90’s music, slowly working through her Netflix queue, or arguing politics and social issues. She hopes to one day write for The New York Times.

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