How To Tell if You’re in a Toxic Relationship


Sometimes being blinded by love can also blind you from seeing the bigger picture. Whether you’re in a new relationship or a long term one, it can be challenging to recognize the signs of toxicity when there’s something going wrong. A healthy relationship calls for equality and respect: it should never be dreadful, full of guilt, or (in the worse case scenario) abusive.

When you’re in a relationship with another person, you should feel comfortable and happy. But, what if you’re feeling you’re trapped? Or what if you notice that your arguments go a little too far over the smallest things? Here are some signs that you may be in the wrong love story. Take heed and always remember that your mental health, physical health, and happiness is much more valuable than anything else in this world.

They put you down or make you feel like everything’s your fault.

Turning your words against you, calling you names, making you feel inferior, disregarding what you have to say, silencing you, or even constantly making fun of your work or thoughts is an absolute no-go in the rulebook for relationships. Any of these actions are not appropriate: your partner should be helping you grow and make you feel confident in your abilities and yourself.

They take you away from your friends.

You have every right to have friends other than the person you’re in a relationship with. Friendships are important so don’t allow your partner to make themselves the only person that you talk to or see. They should be trying to meet and make friends with the other people you surround yourself with and give you that time to have your girl night out.

They push you into things you don’t want to do.

Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with. If they keep pressuring you into doing something you are not okay with, that’s a sign that you could be in a toxic relationship. The person you are dating should honor your choices and beliefs and understand the word no. Being in a relationship is all about choosing someone that is compatible for you, and if your partner is pushing or pressuring you, it’s time say goodbye.

They are aggressive or hurtful.

Make sure that in a relationship your safety comes first and that you are in no kind of danger. Do not stand for any kind of physical or mental harm and always remember that there are people to help you, even when you don’t believe that to be true. If things get out of hand, immediately call your local police and get yourself out of the situation.

It can be hard to pull away from someone who you may have grown attached to, but keep in mind that doing what is best for you is the most important thing in the world. There are so many people and opportunities out there; you will never run out of second chances. So if your relationship is bordering on the toxic edge, take a chance, better your life, and find someone else who really loves, admires, and supports you–they’re out there, you just need to let go and look.

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Ashley is a CUNY Queens College student majoring in Media Studies and Film. She has an eye for photography and a passion for traveling. When she is not blogging, you can catch her hiking, biking, or spending her days in coffee shops.

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