How to Self-Talk Yourself Through Anxiety


Most people have experienced some form of anxiety in their life. For some, anxiety can escalate far past that nervous feeling in your stomach and into a full-blown panic attack. An anxiety attack can be really scary, especially if you’re not familiar with how to deal with one. There are some important things to tell yourself when you feel an anxiety attack or even just plain old anxiety coming on to help you get through it as painlessly as possible. These are some things to remind yourself of that can ease the severity of your anxiety.

It won’t last forever.  

Whatever the situation is that’s got you feeling anxious, know that it will be over soon.  You won’t be trapped in this lecture hall all day, and you won’t feel anxious all day.  Soon enough class will be over, and you can remove yourself from the environment that’s got you feeling overwhelmed. And you should do just that–removing yourself from an anxiety-inducing situation and placing yourself in a more calm environment is key to help your mind settle.

You’ve got through it before, and you can get through it again.  

Use your experience to your benefit. Remember the last time you felt this way? Remember how the feeling passed, and you were soon back to your normal self? Nothing harmful happened last time, and nothing bad will happen this time, either: remember that.

Those terrible things that you’re imagining? They’re probably not going to happen.  

It can be difficult to be realistic and level-headed during an anxiety or panic attack, but try your best to think clearly; what are the chances, really, that you’ll freeze up and forget your name during your interview? Trust yourself.  Nothing detrimental to your existence is going to happen as an outcome of this situation.    

If your fears do happen, what’s the worst possible result?  

Let’s say your worst fears come true, and you get sick during your big presentation. Okay, that’s embarrassing, but you’re not going to die. Your class will probably feel bad for you and sympathize with your situation, but also be super happy that class gets cut short. Everyone will have forgotten about it by next week.  

Chances are, you’ll go through some really anxious times in your life. The good news is, there are ways to cope, and one of the most important ways to do that is to choose your thoughts carefully. In doing so, you can gain control of your anxiety.       

Know when it’s more than just stress.  

Feeling nervous about a big test is normal, but feeling nervous to the point of physical sickness even when there’s no evidently stressful situation at-hand is not healthy. If you can’t imagine dealing with your anxiety in any of the ways listed above, your condition may be more serious. If you experience severe anxiety on an everyday basis, or if you find that anxiety is preventing you from living your life, then you may have an anxiety disorder and should consider seeing your doctor. There are a number of different anxiety disorders and it would be helpful to know if you have one so you can get treatment to help yourself feel and function better.   

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Rachel spent the last two years studying English and Writing at Grand Valley State University in Michigan, and is now continuing her studies at Oakland University. Her passions outside of writing include coffee, her dear dog Bodi, reading, and coffee. She’s a big believer in enjoying the little things in life, like sunny mornings, starry nights, and the Oxford comma. And coffee.

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