Be comfortable in your own skin. This mantra took me years to understand and actually figure out. Honestly, I am not even totally sure I have it all figured out yet either. Everyone can be uncomfortable in their own skin at times, and I’ve learned that is okay. Learning to accept yourself for who you are can be very difficult.
Throughout high school and part of college, I had a rough time socially and academically. I was never completely comfortable with myself and I did not know what kind of person I wanted to be, and therefore I sort of just floated aimlessly trying to figure out what people liked so that I could be that.
I learned the hard way that people don’t like someone who is fake, and especially someone who doesn’t like themselves. How could my friends like and love me if I couldn’t even do that for myself?
There were many times when I questioned everything I said, did, wore, what color my hair was and what kind of makeup I put on my face. The list was endless and it was exhausting always second guessing my decisions.
This was even more prominent when I went to community college. Though I did not know anybody, I assumed everyone was judging me. I was stuck in the mindset that I had been in for years. It was second nature to put myself down and to accept that I was unlikeable even to myself.
But then I began to learn and understand that people do not think about you as much as you think they do. For example, say you have a huge pimple on your face. Your first thought is how every single person you see is going to notice and judge you immediately. Though this may seem like a natural fear, everyone is too busy worrying about their own pimples, bad hair days, and outfit crises to worry about anyone else’s equally minor problems.
It took me a long time to accept who I am, what kind of clothes I like, how I want my hair, and how much I don’t like to wear makeup. I am happy to say that accepting myself is the best thing I have ever done. It is also the best thing that you can do. Accepting your uniqueness will make life much more fun and happy.
As for other people accepting you, just be yourself and your true friends will find you and stick by you for YOU. Never change just because someone doesn’t like you the way that you are–be comfortable in your own skin, live for yourself and everything will fall into place.
By: Alexa Bowers